My name is Abbey, and there are a lot of unique things about me. First, I'm a right-brained learner. This basically means that I'm blessed with high imagination and cursed with anxiety. Second, I'm a Latter-Day Saint, who is amazed by the goodness of the Lord and all He does for me in my life. Third, I am an unschooler. The biggest lesson I learned from this education is to love learning and to pursue my passions. This blog is a collection of personal musings that will probably fall into one of these catogories. Thanks for visiting!


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Monday, September 23, 2013

Love Notes - Music Style!

My #1 love language is words of affirmations, and although this doesn't necessarily mean that it's my husband's #1 love language, he does appreciate it when I leave little love notes for him (and being a word person, I love writing them!)  It doesn't have to be anything fancy or artsy; a quick note jotted down on a post-it note and stuck to his computer screen lets him know I'm thinking of him.


As fun as love notes are, I wanted to do something extra special for Ben one day.  I was feeling especially full of love for him, and a mere note didn't seem good enough.  So I created my very own musical love note!  This is how it works.  While listening to music from various artists on the radio or at home, I occasionally hear a song that perfectly represents my feelings toward Ben.  I download the song onto iTunes and pick a place I want to start my musical love note (including the entire song would be a bit overwhelming for both the giver and the receiver).  I then write the words of the song and draw pictures to accompany them in a way that's fun and personal.  Below is the cover and first page of the most recent musical love note I made for Ben.  The song is "Gone, Gone, Gone" by Phillip Phillips and I started the note at the bridge ("you're my backbone, you're my cornerstone, you're my crutch when my legs stop moving").


As you can see, the musical love note is nothing fancy.  I made it with copy paper and crayons in just a few minutes.  But it made Ben so happy to receive it.  Like me, music touches him in a very deep way.  And you know what is the best part about making these love notes?  When I take the time and effort to create these kind of things for Ben, my love for him increases as a result.  Some people say love is a verb, not a passive description; in order to feel love, you have to love first.  I believe this is true, because every time I do a little act of kindness for Ben, my love for him grows stronger and stronger.  If I'm feeling needy, I don't always seek affirmation from Ben.  Sometimes, all I need to do is make a little love note for him.  There's something about showing love to someone else that makes me forget my own problems.  It makes his day better, and at the same time, makes my day better, too.  It's a very special and fun tradition that I hope to continue throughout the years.  

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